How can something that was so right go wrong? Everything was perfect. I had finally found someone that I loved more than myself. Someone whom I wanted to give the world to. Valentine’s Day last year was our first date. Then two days shy of Valentines day this year, she breaks up with me. It wasn’t even like anything was bad between us. In fact things were great. All this week we had talked about house warming parties, trips we were planning this summer, our future in school. Hell even as we spoke that day, everything was normal and great. Now I feel broken. I feel crushed. I feel like my better half has left me. It hurts so much. It’s a type of pain I don’t wish upon anyone. I love this girl more than I love myself. My love, my lover, my best friend broke my heart. I keep asking myself why did this happen? What happened? She said that she relied on me for her strength. That I was her support. She knew she could run from me and I would do whatever it took. She wanted to develop her own strength. Learn to stand on her own. And all I can think is that she doesn’t have to.
I was happy. I’m talking about the type of happy where i don’t even want to talk to another girl because I have all that I want in her. I feel like she is my soul mate. The one I am supposed to be with. This is the girl I wanted to share the rest of my life with. Hell I would have proposed to her earlier, but because of where she wanted to go in life, I held off. The other day when I was at her house, she hugged me and squeezed me so hard and I didn’t want to let go. I got lost in that moment and dreamed of a future where we had grown older and were celebrating our 50th wedding anniversary. Funny, we came so close to making it to the first one.
I feel so much pain. It hurts to the point where its almost unbearable. She asks me if I am ok. What am I supposed to say to that? No, I am not ok. I’m not in a good place. I’m drowning in depression. A huge part of my life has been ripped away from me. I didn’t know I was capable of loving someone this hard. Its superhuman how much I love her. Just as hard as I love her is how much I miss her. And I know that I will miss her even more. All I want is her back. All I want is to work it out. She is my reprieve from the chaos in my life. My breath of fresh air. She has a glow in her eyes that lets you know that everything will be ok.
I wonder am I strong enough to endure this. I feel as though I was tossed aside. I don’t know how to deal because nothing I have gone through has been this extreme. I need this woman in my life. Right now I am not in a good place. I am not stable. One of the people in my life that said they would never hurt me just crushed me. My soul hurts. And yet all I want is to be with her. All I want is to have her back. All I want is to continue giving my all to her. I love her more than anything. I pray for her more than I pray for myself. And I would do anything to get her back…
Friday, February 13, 2009
Monday, February 9, 2009
I'm Heated, Hurt, and Konfused
I’m pissed. I have every right to be pissed. This is the reason why its not always a good idea for my girlfriend to always be hanging out with her best friend that is single.
I don’t care if my girlfriend goes out with her friends. Yea I’m gonna be jealous. That’s just me. I mean my girlfriend is bad. So I’m texting my frat brother telling g him that I am bored on a Friday night. I text my girl the same thing. They both tell me that they are at Whiskey Blue. So I start heading up there. My frat hits me and ask when was the last time I spoke to my girl. I told him right before I spoke to him. He asks has she seen me yet. I tell him no. it turns out that this dude was hollering at my girl. From what I was told by my frat, my girl had this shocked looked on her face. I mean she had dudes coat over her because she was cold. But my frat says that they looked way too comfortable. Mean old dude was putting his arm over her shoulder and all. When my frat walked over there, she sprang up throwing the coat off of her. So later on that evening, she comes home and tells me that only one guy tried to talk to her. So the next night she and i are at a movie. I get a call from my frat asking me to call him when my girl isn’t around. I tell my girl that I gotta talk to him and she starts getting all nervous on the way home. Then she starts having a panic attack. When she gets home she tells me that she doesn’t want to hurt me and tell me everything. But she breaks down, while in tears, that the was feeling and liking the guy she was talking to. She didn’t do anything with the guy. Its not like she kissed him or they did anything. But I had to ask her if she got the guys number. She said yes. I had to ask her if she had planned to call and hang out with the guy. She said that at first she thought about it but then realized it would be a bad idea. Now I need to decide if she thought it would be a bad idea before or after my frat brother saw her. See if you thought about hanging out with dude knowing that you like him, that’s intent. That says to me that you know what you are doing is wrong. I told her to erase dude’s number from her phone. And if dude calls her, we are going to have some issues. She didn’t betray my trust, but shit still hurts. I mean she answered my questions and was honest. I can see that she feels sorry. Never the less I am still pissed. Do I have aright to be pissed? Should I still be pissed. I mean I already feel hurt. I don’t want to lose this woman. This morning as I am getting ready for work, I had to look in the mirror and keep telling myself “I am not a fool”. Tell me I am right world…
If your girlfriend’s best friend is single, its not always a good idea for them to be going out. The funny thing about this situation is that my girls best friend didn’t even try to stop all this from happening. I mean I understand the reasoning why, but that is still fucked up.
Now every time my girlfriend wants to go out with her. But I feel I am within my rights to do so. Am I wrong?
I don’t care if my girlfriend goes out with her friends. Yea I’m gonna be jealous. That’s just me. I mean my girlfriend is bad. So I’m texting my frat brother telling g him that I am bored on a Friday night. I text my girl the same thing. They both tell me that they are at Whiskey Blue. So I start heading up there. My frat hits me and ask when was the last time I spoke to my girl. I told him right before I spoke to him. He asks has she seen me yet. I tell him no. it turns out that this dude was hollering at my girl. From what I was told by my frat, my girl had this shocked looked on her face. I mean she had dudes coat over her because she was cold. But my frat says that they looked way too comfortable. Mean old dude was putting his arm over her shoulder and all. When my frat walked over there, she sprang up throwing the coat off of her. So later on that evening, she comes home and tells me that only one guy tried to talk to her. So the next night she and i are at a movie. I get a call from my frat asking me to call him when my girl isn’t around. I tell my girl that I gotta talk to him and she starts getting all nervous on the way home. Then she starts having a panic attack. When she gets home she tells me that she doesn’t want to hurt me and tell me everything. But she breaks down, while in tears, that the was feeling and liking the guy she was talking to. She didn’t do anything with the guy. Its not like she kissed him or they did anything. But I had to ask her if she got the guys number. She said yes. I had to ask her if she had planned to call and hang out with the guy. She said that at first she thought about it but then realized it would be a bad idea. Now I need to decide if she thought it would be a bad idea before or after my frat brother saw her. See if you thought about hanging out with dude knowing that you like him, that’s intent. That says to me that you know what you are doing is wrong. I told her to erase dude’s number from her phone. And if dude calls her, we are going to have some issues. She didn’t betray my trust, but shit still hurts. I mean she answered my questions and was honest. I can see that she feels sorry. Never the less I am still pissed. Do I have aright to be pissed? Should I still be pissed. I mean I already feel hurt. I don’t want to lose this woman. This morning as I am getting ready for work, I had to look in the mirror and keep telling myself “I am not a fool”. Tell me I am right world…
If your girlfriend’s best friend is single, its not always a good idea for them to be going out. The funny thing about this situation is that my girls best friend didn’t even try to stop all this from happening. I mean I understand the reasoning why, but that is still fucked up.
Now every time my girlfriend wants to go out with her. But I feel I am within my rights to do so. Am I wrong?
Wednesday, November 5, 2008
I Have Always Been Proud
I am not going to be like the many and say that I am finally proud to be black or I am finally proud to be an American. I have ALWAYS been proud to be an American and I have ALWAYS been proud. You ask any true sports fan how they feel about their team; they will tell you that they are with their team through the ups and downs. They stick by their team through thick and thin. That’s how I feel about my race and my country.
The glass ceiling has been removed. There is no excuse or reason as to why you can’t achieve your dreams. They day’s of “the man is holding me back” have ceased. There once was a time where blacks weren’t even considered human. There was a time black were treated as second class citizens. If anything, this election proves that there is no valid excuse or reason for failure. This proves that we young people are ready to unite and take over the world.
My grandmother has dementia. I have to tell her things over and over every 5 minutes. This saddens my heart every time. And I know that this will be no different. I know that I will get to see her face light up every time I tell her that a black man is president of the united states. She will know that what she fought for, what she lived through, allowed us to break down that wall. When I spoke to my mother, she told me that she hoped that I, her son, would see this day. It was with great pride and pleasure that I was able to tell her that she was able to see it. This is for her sacrifice.
But I am compelled to remind everyone that you should always be proud of what you are, no matter what. ALWAYS BE PROUD TO BE AN AMERICAN. ALWAYS BE PROUD TO BE BLACK. ALWAYS BE PROUD TO BE WHAT YOU ARE. There is nothing wrong with pride.
To Sen. John McCain, I would like to thank you for showing how you truly are during your concession speech. Like many others, I believe what we saw during that speech was your true character which deserves so much respect.
To President-Elect Barack Obama, you are THE living dream of our forefathers. You are the culmination of generations of blood, sweat, and tears. The thousands upon thousands that gave their lives so that this dream could one day become a reality can finally rest in peace. Their lives were not in vain. You have united, inspired us. You remind us of what makes this country great. You are our hope. We whole heartedly put our faith and trust in you. You have achieved so much in your campaign. No matter what happened, you have achieved something that will live in the memories and hearts of the citizens of this country for an eternity.
Congratulations President Barack Hussein Obama, II
Thursday, June 26, 2008
The Doc That Wouldn’t Listen
I actually wanted to write a post earlier in the week, but unfortunetly I was feeling a little under the weather. But I have damn good reason too. This past weekend I was at the Atlanta Greek Picnic which is basically a three day party for Black Greek Organizations. Somehow this weekend, after all the chanting and sweating, I managed to lose my voice. For me this was not cool at all, but for everyone else, they took it as a blessing. At a party that night, I also managed to catch some sort of bug that had me coughing. And just so by chance, I mad a promise to a particular young lady that I would quit smoking. So the day after all the festivities ended, I started using the patch. And here’s where all my troubles began….
Click to read after the jump
So I woke up Monday morning feeling like I had been hit with Semi truck. I had no voice and I just felt weak. So at 8:30AM as I am leaving the house, my girlfriend puts on the first of the “quit smoking” patches. I go to work and I am feeling fine. I come home and a start coughing and coughing. Then my throat starts hurting and flem is coming up. I know it’s nasty. Then a headache comes around. Even though I have all of these symptoms, I’m still feeling a little alright.
I wake up Tuesday morning feeling like Amy Winehouse an hour into sobriety. I was sick like no other. So I call the doctor and set up an appointment. My girlfriend goes to work and I see the Doc. When I get called into the little room with the little chair by the nurse, I start telling her my symptoms. “Let me guess, you are here because you have no voice, right” says the nurse. I reply with a faint whisper, “No. Actually I have headaches, nausea, flem, and it feels like a fat person is sitting on my chest so its hard to breathe, and I have a stiff neck. Oh I started using the anti-smoking patch.” She typed all fo this into her little laptop. And she sent the notes off to the doctor. 2 minutes later, the doc rolls in, says Hi, takes out the big wooden stick, looks down my throat, and says I’m proscribing this antibiotic and giving you some mucinex. I am going to print out the prescription and you can be on your way. Before I could ask what I had, he was out the door and on to another patient. I should have known that my troubles were going to start here.
So I pick up the meds the doc proscribe and took the first dosage of them. For like thirty minutes, I’m feeling alright, then all of my symptoms intensify. I mean my symptoms went from like Bruce Banner to Incredible Hulk. Then, on top of those, I had the worst stomach pains of my life. I felt like I was getting stabbed every fifteen seconds. So my girlfriend calls two of my friends, on is a med school student, the other has been a pharmacist for the past seven years. Both told her to take the anti-smoking patch off and to get some fluids in my body ASAP. It turned out that my body could not filter the antibiotics tha doc gave me and the anti-smoking patch. So I virtually went into nicotine overdose as well as took on every symptom of both the patch and the medication.
My friends asked me later if the doc actually read the notes and wondered if he knew I was actually on the patch. That probably would have saved me a whole lot of pain. But now I have to take care of my girlfriend because she is showing the same symptoms.
Any of ya’ll have a doc that just wouldn’t listen?
Click to read after the jump
So I woke up Monday morning feeling like I had been hit with Semi truck. I had no voice and I just felt weak. So at 8:30AM as I am leaving the house, my girlfriend puts on the first of the “quit smoking” patches. I go to work and I am feeling fine. I come home and a start coughing and coughing. Then my throat starts hurting and flem is coming up. I know it’s nasty. Then a headache comes around. Even though I have all of these symptoms, I’m still feeling a little alright.
I wake up Tuesday morning feeling like Amy Winehouse an hour into sobriety. I was sick like no other. So I call the doctor and set up an appointment. My girlfriend goes to work and I see the Doc. When I get called into the little room with the little chair by the nurse, I start telling her my symptoms. “Let me guess, you are here because you have no voice, right” says the nurse. I reply with a faint whisper, “No. Actually I have headaches, nausea, flem, and it feels like a fat person is sitting on my chest so its hard to breathe, and I have a stiff neck. Oh I started using the anti-smoking patch.” She typed all fo this into her little laptop. And she sent the notes off to the doctor. 2 minutes later, the doc rolls in, says Hi, takes out the big wooden stick, looks down my throat, and says I’m proscribing this antibiotic and giving you some mucinex. I am going to print out the prescription and you can be on your way. Before I could ask what I had, he was out the door and on to another patient. I should have known that my troubles were going to start here.
So I pick up the meds the doc proscribe and took the first dosage of them. For like thirty minutes, I’m feeling alright, then all of my symptoms intensify. I mean my symptoms went from like Bruce Banner to Incredible Hulk. Then, on top of those, I had the worst stomach pains of my life. I felt like I was getting stabbed every fifteen seconds. So my girlfriend calls two of my friends, on is a med school student, the other has been a pharmacist for the past seven years. Both told her to take the anti-smoking patch off and to get some fluids in my body ASAP. It turned out that my body could not filter the antibiotics tha doc gave me and the anti-smoking patch. So I virtually went into nicotine overdose as well as took on every symptom of both the patch and the medication.
My friends asked me later if the doc actually read the notes and wondered if he knew I was actually on the patch. That probably would have saved me a whole lot of pain. But now I have to take care of my girlfriend because she is showing the same symptoms.
Any of ya’ll have a doc that just wouldn’t listen?
Tuesday, June 17, 2008
Kels Goes Free!!!
Kels goes free!
So you might be asking me why I am writing about the R. Kelly trial. The reason being is that R. Kelly’s “Sex Tape” was among the most downloaded videos in the country at one point in time. I remember being a freshman in college when the story of the sex tape broke out. Yes I know I’m a youngin. I’ve been a fan of Kels for quite some time, but I don’t condone what he “allegedly” did. What gets me is how the trial seemed to go down.
Read more after the jump
It seems that the DA spent the past seven years gathering their so called evidence against Robert Kelly. During this time, Kelly had numerous other run –ins with the law for various charges. We teach young children that if “you do the crime, you do the time”. Can we really tell children that with the acquittal of R. Kelly?
The makes it known that he likes young children. First he married the late R&B singer Aaliyah when she was only 15 years old. He takes on the nick name “Pied Piper” which comes from a German tale about how a guy lures little children toward a gruesome fate. He “allegedly” made a number of sex tapes with under aged girls, one of which featured the niece of his former Stephanie “Sparkle” Edwards. Jurors were even able to point him out in the alleged videos. Cartoon Network’s “The Boondocks” aired a parody of how the trial would go down (Which also happened to be one of the most popular episodes of the season).
The evidence was obviously there, and as the episode of the Boondocks went, so did the actual trial. This trial started and ended as quickly as quickly as Amy Winehouse’s periods of sobriety. And while he was under investigation, he managed to release six albums and was featured on a number of remixed songs. That seems like a harsh punishment. Sorry my satire can’t show in the blog.
So my question to the public is, do you believe that the DA put together a well prepared case against R. Kelly? Do you think that R. Kelly’s celebrity status got him off?
So you might be asking me why I am writing about the R. Kelly trial. The reason being is that R. Kelly’s “Sex Tape” was among the most downloaded videos in the country at one point in time. I remember being a freshman in college when the story of the sex tape broke out. Yes I know I’m a youngin. I’ve been a fan of Kels for quite some time, but I don’t condone what he “allegedly” did. What gets me is how the trial seemed to go down.
Read more after the jump
It seems that the DA spent the past seven years gathering their so called evidence against Robert Kelly. During this time, Kelly had numerous other run –ins with the law for various charges. We teach young children that if “you do the crime, you do the time”. Can we really tell children that with the acquittal of R. Kelly?
The makes it known that he likes young children. First he married the late R&B singer Aaliyah when she was only 15 years old. He takes on the nick name “Pied Piper” which comes from a German tale about how a guy lures little children toward a gruesome fate. He “allegedly” made a number of sex tapes with under aged girls, one of which featured the niece of his former Stephanie “Sparkle” Edwards. Jurors were even able to point him out in the alleged videos. Cartoon Network’s “The Boondocks” aired a parody of how the trial would go down (Which also happened to be one of the most popular episodes of the season).
The evidence was obviously there, and as the episode of the Boondocks went, so did the actual trial. This trial started and ended as quickly as quickly as Amy Winehouse’s periods of sobriety. And while he was under investigation, he managed to release six albums and was featured on a number of remixed songs. That seems like a harsh punishment. Sorry my satire can’t show in the blog.
So my question to the public is, do you believe that the DA put together a well prepared case against R. Kelly? Do you think that R. Kelly’s celebrity status got him off?
She Has Myspace On Lock Down!
She Has Myspace On Lock Down!
Alright so I found this story out of Orange County, Florida about this online predator. The funny thing is the predator is not who you would expect it to be. We all hear about the 47 year old perv posing as an 18 year old stud to swoon and lure naive 14 year old girls into meeting them and…well you get the idea. But this case is different.
A particular myspace profile list the user as a 19 year old woman who is divorced. Like many myspace users she is lookin for love and wants to meet up with a guy offline. Well she has. She has met guys off line and she ultimately has sex with them. The twist is….[click to read after the jump]
The twist is she is really 13 years old. Yes people 13! She picks up these guys on myspace and other places on the internet, meets up with them, has sex with them, and tells them how old she really is after they have sex. A guy named Darwin Mills was arrested and sentenced to 5 years in jail for having sex with her. On the second occasion, yes second occasion, a guy named Morris Williams was sentenced to 1 year in jail and 5 years probation for the same thing.
But Williams did, what he thought was, the right thing. After he had sex with her and found out how old she really was, he went and told her father the whole situation. He told her about the myspace page, her tactics, where they met up. And in turn, the father called Johnny Law on Williams.
The family of the “alleged” 13 year old victim (and I use the term extremely loosely) says she still stays out late and they have not deleted her myspace page.
I now pose these questions to you all: Is this fair? Who is to blame? Is it the 13 year old girl? Is it the parents? Is the fault of two duped men? Is our justice system that faulty to where responsible parties go unpunished? What should the punishment be?
Oh and if you want to read more about the story before you post your comment, you can read it here www.wftv.com/news/16348047/detail.html
Alright so I found this story out of Orange County, Florida about this online predator. The funny thing is the predator is not who you would expect it to be. We all hear about the 47 year old perv posing as an 18 year old stud to swoon and lure naive 14 year old girls into meeting them and…well you get the idea. But this case is different.
A particular myspace profile list the user as a 19 year old woman who is divorced. Like many myspace users she is lookin for love and wants to meet up with a guy offline. Well she has. She has met guys off line and she ultimately has sex with them. The twist is….[click to read after the jump]
The twist is she is really 13 years old. Yes people 13! She picks up these guys on myspace and other places on the internet, meets up with them, has sex with them, and tells them how old she really is after they have sex. A guy named Darwin Mills was arrested and sentenced to 5 years in jail for having sex with her. On the second occasion, yes second occasion, a guy named Morris Williams was sentenced to 1 year in jail and 5 years probation for the same thing.
But Williams did, what he thought was, the right thing. After he had sex with her and found out how old she really was, he went and told her father the whole situation. He told her about the myspace page, her tactics, where they met up. And in turn, the father called Johnny Law on Williams.
The family of the “alleged” 13 year old victim (and I use the term extremely loosely) says she still stays out late and they have not deleted her myspace page.
I now pose these questions to you all: Is this fair? Who is to blame? Is it the 13 year old girl? Is it the parents? Is the fault of two duped men? Is our justice system that faulty to where responsible parties go unpunished? What should the punishment be?
Oh and if you want to read more about the story before you post your comment, you can read it here www.wftv.com/news/16348047/detail.html
Monday, November 5, 2007
Dating Application Process
I think that we are all guilty of placing people in one of these two categories. So see someone. You think they are cute. Naw not just cute, they look good as hell. Normal right? But when that person opens their mouth, they can get put into one of two categories off the bat. Either they say a number of stupid things, or they actually sound like they have substance to their personality. So how do u differentiate the two?
Relationship material
I don't know about everyone else, but i look at dating like filling out a job application. I am looking for a particular type of background, experience, and other qualifications. Just as in the work world, in order to get the job you want, you must have the right combination of qualifications. As stated in my previous blogs, I am looking for a woman that has (or is about to receive) a degree from a 4-year university. I am also looking for someone that doesn't have an kids. Moving on...You meet someone that meets the basic qualifications. Then comes to the dating stage. The stage of dating is like the interview for the job. This stage should not exceed two months. that should be ample enough time to understand someone (not know but understand) to decide if you want to get in a relationship with this person. If all te qualifications are there, ad you're feeling that person, then there is no reason they shouldn't get the job. But like all jobs, some applicants get put in the "we'll call you when we have something available" category, which leads me to the fuckable category.
Now don’t get it twisted. If you are in the fuckable category, that means that you are a friend. You are someone we are cool with. It’s not necessarily a one night stand thing. It means that you are attractive and you are cool. You are just not what we are looking for in a relationship. It could be your background, or a personality quark. Whatever it is, something has placed you in this category. But there is a way to get out of this category… if you want. If for whatever that one or group of elements that was keeping you in the fuckable category changes to the liking of that other person, then there is a chance that you might get moved into that relationship category. But just because that element changes doesn’t mean that you WILL get into the other category.
The first three dates are equivalent to the interview stage. It means that you have the right background and there could really be potential. This is merly an opportunity to get a glimpse into the other person’s personality. Combined with phone conversations, three dates is sufficient enough time to determine if you want to start dating this person. You can stretch out the time frame of those three dates to last a month is need be. But it should NOT exceed a month.
If that person is what you are looking for, then offer them the job. But don’t think that its all down hill. Just because they are dating doesn’t mean that they are in the clear. The dating stage is like a probationary period at a new job. Just like at work, you are hired to see if things are truly going to work out. But you do have titles in this stage. Whether they want to admit it or not, you are someone’s girlfriend/boyfriend. This probationary period can last from one month but should not exceed 4 months. You should be really feeling the person out in this stage. By the end of this time frame, you should have made the decision as to if you want to be in a relationship with this person or not.
If you decide that you do want to be in a relationship with this person, then you are goods to go. You would have taken the time you need, and learned how that person really is. Just as at work, after your probationary period, you can begin talking long term arrangements with the company. That’s the application process of dating.
P.S.
If you’re “GROWN” , you will always let the person know where they stand with you (fuckable or relationship material). Not only for safety purposes, but also just off principle.
Relationship material
I don't know about everyone else, but i look at dating like filling out a job application. I am looking for a particular type of background, experience, and other qualifications. Just as in the work world, in order to get the job you want, you must have the right combination of qualifications. As stated in my previous blogs, I am looking for a woman that has (or is about to receive) a degree from a 4-year university. I am also looking for someone that doesn't have an kids. Moving on...You meet someone that meets the basic qualifications. Then comes to the dating stage. The stage of dating is like the interview for the job. This stage should not exceed two months. that should be ample enough time to understand someone (not know but understand) to decide if you want to get in a relationship with this person. If all te qualifications are there, ad you're feeling that person, then there is no reason they shouldn't get the job. But like all jobs, some applicants get put in the "we'll call you when we have something available" category, which leads me to the fuckable category.
Now don’t get it twisted. If you are in the fuckable category, that means that you are a friend. You are someone we are cool with. It’s not necessarily a one night stand thing. It means that you are attractive and you are cool. You are just not what we are looking for in a relationship. It could be your background, or a personality quark. Whatever it is, something has placed you in this category. But there is a way to get out of this category… if you want. If for whatever that one or group of elements that was keeping you in the fuckable category changes to the liking of that other person, then there is a chance that you might get moved into that relationship category. But just because that element changes doesn’t mean that you WILL get into the other category.
The first three dates are equivalent to the interview stage. It means that you have the right background and there could really be potential. This is merly an opportunity to get a glimpse into the other person’s personality. Combined with phone conversations, three dates is sufficient enough time to determine if you want to start dating this person. You can stretch out the time frame of those three dates to last a month is need be. But it should NOT exceed a month.
If that person is what you are looking for, then offer them the job. But don’t think that its all down hill. Just because they are dating doesn’t mean that they are in the clear. The dating stage is like a probationary period at a new job. Just like at work, you are hired to see if things are truly going to work out. But you do have titles in this stage. Whether they want to admit it or not, you are someone’s girlfriend/boyfriend. This probationary period can last from one month but should not exceed 4 months. You should be really feeling the person out in this stage. By the end of this time frame, you should have made the decision as to if you want to be in a relationship with this person or not.
If you decide that you do want to be in a relationship with this person, then you are goods to go. You would have taken the time you need, and learned how that person really is. Just as at work, after your probationary period, you can begin talking long term arrangements with the company. That’s the application process of dating.
P.S.
If you’re “GROWN” , you will always let the person know where they stand with you (fuckable or relationship material). Not only for safety purposes, but also just off principle.
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